My mom (who had been a first grade teacher before I was born and then a stay at home mom) had a good rule regarding after school activities: my sisters and I were only allowed to participate in one after school activity at a time. We did not lack in trying new things. I think I did everything! I just didn't do it all at the same time. Maybe piano lessons overlapped, and once I was chosen to participate in drawing lessons at a college while I was still on Drill Team (though that proved to be too much).
I adopted that rule with my own children too. Why? Because then they have down time to be creative, to help around the house (kids these days do not learn how to cook and clean!!!), to participate in other sibling's games sometimes and basically TO GET EVERYONE TO THE DINNER TABLE EVERY NIGHT TOGETHER! That is my number one goal and it's working.
My kids are in 8th and 9th grades and we are a very close family who does spend quality time together. My kids have time to do their homework and still time to pursue their own interests. They don't need to be scheduled and "entertained" by someone else all the time! Unfortunately other friends' parents don't do this so it's really hard for my kid to find time with their friends. It's sort of ridiculous! I really don't think the other moms cook like I do. I'm big on nourishing nutritional meals because these kids are growing plus it keeps their hormone levels more stable (and happy) to eat good home cooked food!
And Mom isn't crazy driving around all the time... Happy Momma, Happy Family!!
Bethany
