Dr. Laura:
I am a stay-at-home mom of six. Our marriage has lasted 36 years, but we were some of those "idiots" who married at ages 19 and 20. If any of our kids even thought of doing that, we'd lock them up and throw away the key for at least five years!
My husband is a manly man who works two jobs to take care of our family. When the kids were small, he always said to me that when they were in school, I could get a job. I wasn't a big fan of that idea, as I knew the before and after school hours were crucial for having a parent at home.
Once they were all in school, I said, "maybe I should get a job." My husband immediately said he needed me at home. What changed his attitude? Listening to you all those years our kids were infants and toddlers. Now they're all grown, ranging in age from 25 to 35, and they have turned out to be good, caring adults.
I also bought your book "
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands," although at first I wondered what I could possibly learn at the age of 56 after all this time being married (although I didn't want things to get stale with just the two of us at home). Well, I learned things in the introduction!! So thank you not only for helping my husband understand the importance of a mom staying home with the kids, but also for helping us freshen up our marriage.
Lee