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Think of the Child, Not Yourself
10/20/2010
IconI'm getting more and more scared for our country and our society.  The attitudes and behaviors which were once marginalized are now becoming mainstream, tearing apart the fabric of families and the well-being of individuals. You may remember my comments about Jennifer Aniston's movie "The Switch," which focused on parenthood via donor insemination.  Well, she had a bit of a tussle with Bill O'Reilly, who said in August that Aniston's comments on women's ability to become mothers without men were "destructive to our society."   He was right. What is this feminist, liberal rush to eliminate dads from the life of children?  We already know the promiscuity of little girls and the sociopathic behavior of little boys in families without a dad.  The agenda of "I am woman, hear me roar" is louder than the factual necessity of a dad in the lives of children?  How could that happen? FoxNews.com reported that Melissa Singer  "always knew she didn't want to get married.  It wasn't that she didn't like men or relationships; she just never felt the desire for constant partnership.  What she did want, however was a child." The New York City woman is quoted as saying: "Motherhood was the thing I wanted to do most in the world.  I wanted to have a child.  I wanted to be able to pass along the traditions that my family had.  I wanted to be able to give my parents a grandchild." So she went to the local sperm bank.  Her child is now 14, and doesn't have a daddy, because mommy was (in my opinion) too controlling and narcissistic to marry for the sake of the child. Eric Blyth, a professor of social work in a British university told LifeScience that "I could never really see that there was such a big difference certainly from the child's point of view between adoption and donor conception, in terms of children knowing where they come from." Good Lord, is he kidding?  An adoption to a two-parent, "mom and dad" family has the same impact that the knowledge that there really is no dad - just sperm from a laboratory??  On what planet does he think this could possibly be true? This does point out, however, that agenda trumps facts more and more these days. Through the lens of Hollywood, we're mainstreaming behavior which hurts children and society, while positioning that behavior as equal to or even superior to traditional attitudes.  We have movies about confusion as to whose sperm donation did the deed; we have movies about two women with one sperm donor, and the humor and warmth that comes from that situation - all in the service of redefining the family as whatever you wish it to be. We also have several television programs depicting multiple-wife situations as a reasonable alternative to the intimacy and commitment between a man and a woman in the covenant of marriage. Basically, ours is becoming a free-for-all society where folks can have what they want....at the expense of children. I've been warning about this for three decades, only to be met with indictments of being "hateful" to the adults in these situation. I do not hate. I suffer the children.
Tags: Family/Relationships - Children, Feminism, Motherhood, Motherhood-Fatherhood, Parenting, Social Issues
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