By Jeff Forte90MinuteMarriageMiracle.com
"Ninety percent of this stuff is not that serious, we just get crazy about it." -Ursula Burns CEO Xerox
It's becoming more and more common to see women at the top of the corporate ladder that has long been dominated by men. Finally many women are being recognized for their tremendous leadership skills and business achievements.
Their vision, creativity, and relentless determination to make a difference, is paying big dividends.
Can all of this success also translate into an amazing marriage? Absolutely.
3 Ways to Be the Greatest Wife in the World:
- Have a Vision: You know very clearly what you want in business, and that clarity has helped shape your business success. This clarity of vision is also essential in sustaining the love and passion of your marriage.
Knowing what you don't want to feel or happen is not enough. You must know exactly what you do want, or you will get distracted with the little life stressors that pile up and become things that you argue about without knowing why. Your relationship and connection will drift, caught up in unimportant things without any clear vision. What do you want your marriage to optimally look like? How do you want to feel when you are interacting with your partner? What are you working towards building together?
- Use your Creativity: The skills you use to influence people are abundantly helpful with your partner. Real leadership is not about criticizing and telling people what to do.
"Leadership is about making people better as a result or your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence." - Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook
Want to shift your interaction with your partner? Your willingness to be creative can change the dynamics of any relationship. You can be light-hearted, fun, and playful, and remember why you love this person and why you are with them.
- Get Determined: In order for any level of business to be sustained, energy must be exerted or the business will ultimately fail. This is also true of a relationship. If left on its own, it will flounder and result in the disconnection of the partners.
Turning a business or relationship around requires even more energy, not the same energy that sustains it. Being determined to manifest the vision you want can result in an increased sense of curiosity. What is actually working well between you as a couple? What strategies are you using that aren't working to sustain connection?
As the smart, successful person you are, you realize that if a strategy isn't working then it's time to change it and try something new, or the results will continue to be the same. That same relentless determination that you use in business can be beneficial in turning around even the most difficult relationship challenges.
Be sure to remember the wisdom of your heart. If you are hurt, bitter, or resentful about what you are not getting, very little will change. Having heartfelt understanding for people is an earmark of a great leader. Your intuition and heart will trump your head in helping you to create the results that you want at home.
What's the truth... what's real? Not the old story that might be in your head. Find that and your success is inevitable.
Jeff Forte CSIC CME, author of
The 90-Minute Marriage Miracle, founder of
PEAK Results Coaching, is an Executive Coach specializing in marriage resolution and team dynamics. He holds certifications in Strategic Intervention and Marriage Education and is an expert in divorce prevention and urgent conflict resolution. Clients include Fortune 500 Executives, Business Professionals, Attorneys, Surgeons, Professional Athletes, Teams and Couples. He works with clients all over the world via Skype. For more information visit
90MinuteMarriageMiracle.com. Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com.
