I have been married 14 years and we have two children - 9 and 7. Along the way I became a great mom and a crappy wife. I have actually said these statements multiple times:
- If I would just be nice my husband, he would do anything for me.
- Why does my husband not understand that at the end of the day, I don't want anyone in my face needing anything - not the kids or him!
How can an educated women not see the flaw in those two thoughts!
Recently my husband broke his leg. My estrogen took over and all I wanted to do was take care of him. Simultaneously, I became aware that lack of intimacy was one of the top relationship killers. During my caretaking, I realized I felt better loving on my husband. He felt better, and was happy and complimentary. I bought "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and it all seems like such a no brainer! Without the injury, I don't know when I would have finally put the pieces together to fix our marriage. Your advice is so right on and what it takes to make him happy is so simple. Luckily, I choose wisely and am now treating kindly. I am grateful to have heard all the advice you have given over the years and so happy I finally implemented it!!
Jessica
