Dr. Laura Blog

Feeling lovey-dovey and horny is not the same thing as commitment. Here are 5 signs that the guy you’re dating has no intention of marrying you:

1. He never mentions marriage. If he doesn’t want to talk about sharing a future with you, he doesn’t want to marry you. When a man wants to get married and start a family, he gets down on one knee and gives you a ring. Humping you isn’t a commitment, promise, or vow. It’s not a message that he wishes to be a daddy. It just means that he wants a warm place to put it. You can try to leverage him by threatening to walk away, but a person who has to be manipulated into marriage, doesn’t really want to marry you. All you’re doing is rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic  - statistically, it’s still going to sink.

2. He’s hot and horny one minute, and ice-cold the next. If he loves you, he will act like it.

3. He’s not open and honest. Being authentic takes courage, but it needs to be part of every relationship.

4. He wants entirely different things from you. You’re into family, and he never wants to see his or yours. You want pets or kids, and he doesn’t. Rather than trying to force a square peg into a round hole, find someone who is more compatible.

5. He is your project or challenge. You’re not going to change him, no matter how much sex or love you invest. Your love is not enough.