March 15, 2016
Lesson Learned


Dr. Laura:

Long ago, I was a privileged brat but my father still put me through four years of college.  One day, he said his friend had a job for me at the local grocery store.  I responded that he told me I wouldn't have to work during college, but my Dad wisely mentioned he thought it would be beneficial.  I really resented him, but I went and got the job.  

Most days started with my being in a quiet rage.  After all, I was a college student - I shouldn't have to work with high school kids in a grocery store!  But I realized I had to adjust my attitude and greet people with a smile and make them feel welcome in the store, and I did that.  After a few weeks, it hit me that I was really happy in the afternoon and that was a big contrast to how I was starting off the day.  Intentionally shifting into my "work" personality actually made me happier than I had been in a long time.  That's when I realized the power I had over my own emotions.  If I changed my behavior, my mood followed.  I could CHOOSE to be happy.

My father is gone now, but the lesson I learned from him has helped my outlook on life and all my relationships.  I apply this principle in my marriage, at my current job, and with my friendships.  Who knew that I'd learn such a life lesson in a grocery store?  I often hear you teaching this truth to people who struggle in their marriages-act like you're happy, give a loving touch, greet him with a smile or give her a hug - and it WILL make you feel better.  I know from experience you're right!  Keep up the good work.

Steve 


Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM