My 21-year-old daughter came to me today in tears.  She has to quit her part-time job, because she found a better one, but she doesn't want her boss to hate her, to make people mad, or to disappoint anyone.

I channeled you when I talked to her, because I often hear your voice and words in my head a lot during difficult times.  I said to her that there would always be someone who would be mad at her, often with no good reason.  I told her that her dad and I would be disappointed if she quit without notice or behaved badly when she did.  Intellectually, this was going to be a good change for her, and she shouldn't let her emotions "talk" her out of making the right decision.  Then I asked her what the worst possible thing that might happen was when she gives notice.  We talked through several scenarios and how to handle each one if it happened.  Finally, I told her she could sigh, agonize, and whine about this for 30 more minutes, but then she had to take a deep breath and move on.  

I think all those years of listening to you enabled me to help my daughter in a productive and positive way.  I hope you have many more years of programming your words into my brain!

Rhea