November 6, 2015
I Married A Child Of Divorce

I was raised by parents who instilled in me more traditional values. I also had a strong character. I think this was partially because of my love for reading, church attendance, prayer and my extended family with traditional values.

When I was 19, I started dating a young man from my church. He was a child of divorce. His dad divorced his mother when he was 4 years old. He was the first kid in his school class to have divorced parents. His mother was a very strong Christian. Somehow, she understood that she should not remarry. She had a chance or two, but she never took advantage of the opportunity.  This was mainly for the sake of her son. He witnessed his dad go through 2 more marriages and had shared some negative times when visiting his dad's place. With the other women and their kids there was not a lot of room for him.

Now this man is my husband. My mom warned me about dating kids of divorce. I was young. I did have a strong head on my shoulders in some ways. I was also naive in other ways. Maybe I got lucky? He and I dated 5 years, got married and have been married another 18 years. We are now both 41 years. We were clear at first, the marriage was about me being a stay at home mom and supportive wife. To make the family and home that he missed out on earlier in life. I've been amazed at this Man. He credits me with being the architect of our family. But he grew and learned and also taught me. We grew up together. Being married as "children" was hard at times. But we truly loved each other and matured. Marrying a divorced kid? Yes, be careful. 

My Hubby and I are are madly in love with each other and our two kids. I'm grateful for the validation of "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" as well as your views Dr. Laura. After a total of 22 years with my Man, I am finally feeling validation.

Thank you!



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