Dear Dr. Laura;

While I don't always agree with your advice, I like to listen to you because you make me re-evaluate my thinking constantly.

A few years ago, I had a friend whose behavior I thought was getting worse and worse. She had been married, no children, divorced twice and was emailing me about this new man she was seeing… a married man. I thought this was so awful and immoral, I started to question more of her actions and what she had said in previous conversations… How she took three classes at a community college and did not understand how people could manage to go to school full-time - she was exhausted! Mind you she had no children or a job. She wanted to become pregnant while being married to hubby #2, but pregnancy wasn't in the cards, but could not afford to adopt.  So how could she afford a baby at all?  Later, she told me, after her 3rd husband was divorced and married to her, that weekends with her hubby's children were a chore and she was just not a 'family woman'! I realized that this woman only wanted to please herself, had no consideration for anyone else, and was not accountable to anyone. I did not make a big fuss, I just let the 'friendship' dry up. I did not reply to her emails or invite her to gatherings.  Eventually, she just stopped contacting me. I don't believe that anything I could have said to her would have changed her; she would have thought I was just old-fashioned. I don't need her in my life.

Thank you, Dr. Laura.

Anne