April 19, 2016
I HAD Done My Job

Dr. Laura,

I had to comment on the call from the mother that compared her son going to college to him dying. My advice to her - be happy he is going to college. When I left my oldest in the parking lot 1400 miles from home he asked us to go. When he hugged me goodbye, he said:

"Thanks for everything Mom, you've done a great job. I love you."

After driving a while, my husband was shocked that I hadn't fallen apart. I explained to him what this day meant. That I HAD done my job as a parent! That if he had said, "Take me home, I don't think I can handle this." then I would be upset. My son flew home for every break, holiday and summer, rather than go off and party with friends. He told me he wanted to stay in touch with his 2 younger brothers, because they were changing and growing up fast. We never told him this was a financial burden for us, even though it was so very was worth it.

Three years later, our middle son left home on his bike and never came home again. I can assure that woman, it was NOTHING like our college drop off experience with our older son. I won't expound on what this did to our family, the pain and loss are too profound for words. I will grieve every day for the rest of my life.

Holidays now mean a trip to the Cemetery - not the airport. There is only 1 positive from this tragedy - I have NO REGRETS! I stayed home and spent every day teaching, nurturing & loving my boys, like ONLY A MOMMY can! I use my story to encourage pregnant, and Mom's with little ones, to stay home and raise their own children. Otherwise, I am a private person, but this is too important to be quiet about.

Keep fighting for the kids.

Deb


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