By Anne Leedom
parentingbookmark.com

Gift giving is a tricky thing. Do you find something that makes you look good? Or do you focus on something that will truly thrill your loved ones.  People will spend a great deal of time finding the 'perfect gift'.  However, when it comes to shopping, there are a few key factors to bear in mind.

1. Just friends or is it more. Take a moment to assess the expectation of the person you intend to give to. Is this a romantic relationship? Family? Sentiment will be well received, as long as it's consistent with the person you are giving to.
2. Take the time to research. When you give a gift, take some time to find out what the recipient's interests might be.  Giving a gift that could be given to just anyone will not go over well. Choose something personal that will show that you truly do you know who the person is on the other end of the gift.
3. Don't go overboard.  There's nothing more awkward then someone doing something so nice and elaborate, but it's not realistic or comfortable for the relationship. Make sure your gift is consistent with the comfort level of the person you want to give to. You can give a gift that incorporates all the special elements of giving the right gift, but still respects what is appropriate for the recipient.
4. Quality counts. Ultimately, regardless of what you give or who you give to, the quality factor can't be overlooked.  When you look at the wonderful old holiday movies, the very best gifts are things that are crafty, sentimental and heartfelt. Going to antique stores are a wonderful way to find the perfect gift for the people who matter the most. Anything that has a personal note will make the impression you hope to create.
5. Sustainability.  The prefect gift won't disappear in a year. Find gifts that are handmade and come from the heart. Even if they do get packed away one day, they will be discovered and have value for many years to come.
6. Pass the unique test. To be honest, if everyone has it, it's actually not that exciting. Finding gifts that are unique and special are for more loved and valued then the latest "get' gift. Make sure your gift passes the unique test. It's a far better measure than the popularity test, as it will be cherished for years to come.

Gift giving is about creating memories and expressing sentiment. Hand made gifts and old fashioned mementos are much more effective than the latest and greatest trendy products that 'everyone' has.  The movie Santa Claus 2 is wonderful at expressing this ideal.  It's memories and connections that will make the holidays special. Make sure your gift passes the sentiment test. You and your gift will be remembered fondly for years to come.

Anne Leedom is the Editor and Founder of Parentingbookmark.com, a national online resource for raising caring kids. For more information and tips visit www.parentingbookmark.com.  Permission granted for use on DrLaura.com