Hi Dr. Laura,

This is in reference to a call you had from a woman who suffered severe brain damage from an auto accident. As she was describing her husband's behavior, I could identify with some of it.

My wife of 53 years is in the early stages of dementia. I can understand the impatience the caller described in her husband. It is an adjustment that a spouse has to make, which does not come easy. Patience is the one thing I have to work hard on. It's my weak spot. The dementia turns her into a different person. It takes knowledge and understanding to begin to adjust.

It sounded like her husband was having difficulty handling it positively. If she divorces him and gets married again, it will be difficult for a new husband to handle too. Dementia affects the way a person communicates, the things they remember and decisions they make. This is one of the more difficult aspects of dementia.



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