April 2, 2019
I Chose My Husband Twice

Dear Dr. Laura:

I chose my husband when I was 19 years old and he was 23.  I was a child who got married.  We got divorced after ten years together due to stress, immaturity, and neglect.  My husband had an affair and I was a very independent strong "woman/girl" who would not stand for that, so we divorced, and we each started to raise our two-year-old son separately.

Our sweet little boy was happy to be with both of us.  Each time he returned from a weekend with his Dad, he would say "Daddy loves you, Mommy."  As a divorced mother, I thought a lot about the life my son would have.  I didn't want him to be an outsider in a new family.  I didn't want a new stepmom or step-dad to not like him.  And I thought a lot about his words to me about Daddy loving me.  By this time, I was listening to your program and I was a Dr. Laura fan.  I knew I was more to blame for the divorce than my ex-husband was.  I knew I chose the right man, even though I was only 19 when I did it.  My little child helped me keep loving his Daddy.

Two and a half years after our divorce, my ex-husband picked me up, and we drove to the justice of the peace and married again.  Last year, we celebrated our 25th anniversary.  My little boy is now 20 years old, and I believe we changed the course of his life.  I married his Daddy again because of him, but I am still together with his Dad because of love.  One of my prized possessions is a piece of paper I pulled out of my son's backpack when he was in elementary school.  It was a picture of a bride and groom with handwritten words that said, "I was happy when my Mom and Dad got married."  Thank you from the bottom of my heart.  I chose my husband twice, and I will keep treating him kindly forever.

Mary



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