He was my big love, the man I thought I wanted to marry, until I caught him in bed with another woman and uncovered years of lies...

Back then, I put up with the things that bothered me because I believed his words. It was only after being horribly betrayed that I truly understood the phrase: actions speak louder than words.

I wish someone back then would have taught me -- watch what he does, not what he says. If he treats you like crap in any way, he doesn't LOVE you and therefore doesn't deserve you or your love. Forget the words. Judge always, and only, on behavior, to know a person's TRUE INTENT.

For me, once I saw what he was capable of I "got it". I knew in my heart I wouldn't stand for that, and he wasn't what I desired to begin with...

L.