My husband and I have been married almost 20 years, and most of that time I have treated him like a boyfriend. However, recently, I just got lazy when it came to "feeding" him. I just ignored his needs and withdrew. But when he said the words "I don't get to touch you anymore," I got really sad. I didn't say anything at that moment.
The next day, I was listening to you and heard a few callers who were losing their marriages because of the same thing I was doing. I had a complete wake-up call from listening and as soon as he got home that evening, I kissed him and turned on the charm. We were having fun just hanging out when he said, "why are you being so nice?" I explained everything (even that you had inspired me to not deprive him of my attention), and I apologized. I don't know what was going on with me, because since I have turned "it" back on, I've been having a lot of fun! Why was I depriving myself of this time with him? Thank you for being that voice of reason when I start to go off the right path.