Dear Laura,

Thank you for the tough stance you take on divorce and remarriage. I think mothers who go looking for another man to take care of them after divorce are selfish and put their needs before their children.

No child asks to be born into this world. Why is it so hard for mothers of young children to understand that they need to totally devote themselves to the children who need mom's total attention? I have taken a lot of flak from my friends and relatives for voicing my personal convictions. It frustrates me to have relatives tell me divorce doesn't affect their children. I see the effects of divorce on my own husband, as he was the youngest of four children. His mother remarried twice after divorcing his father.  I know my husband resents that his mother took her limited energy and gave so much of it to her step boys. This was done at his expense.

You are so right, that a mother will always protect their own child over a step child. You are so brave to speak the truth that no one wants to hear. Hope you are enjoying your summer! 

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