September 28, 2011
What a Loving Husband Sees! Dear Dr. Laura, I've been benefiting from your wisdom for a number of years. Until now I've never been tempted to call or write you but I feel I may have some insight into a recurring theme among your female callers. That subject is women's seemingly endless insecurity about their appearance. Having been married to a beautiful woman for almost 30 years I feel I can offer a male perspective regarding this issue and possibly reassure my own beautiful female at the same time. Yep, she has these same insecurities. I would like to share with you and your listeners what I see when I look at my partner of 30 years. I am sure most of the good husbands out there are going to agree with me so I will speak for all of us. We see our wives through special lenses. We don't merely see who you are now. We see everything you've been and done from the very first time we laid eyes on you. Your bodies are a history lesson, our history together, and not a single part of you is anything but cherished. When we look at you, we still see that new girl sitting across from us in homeroom, looking like an angel and chewing on a pencil. We see the young bride looking up into our eyes with total love and trust. We see the brand new mother, aglow with joy, holding out our child to us for the first time. We see the perfect Mom making our bleeding child's world perfect again with a GI Joe Bandaid, a soft touch and a smile. Where you see ugly wrinkles gathering about your mouth, we see every magnificent smile that helped to etch those lines into your beautiful face especially the smiles that we put there. When you get depressed over a few extra ounces showing up in that evil mirror and swear off desserts for all time, we're remembering the Anniversary when the two of us discovered together that whipped cream doesn't just go well on Ice Cream Sundaes! While you fret over every new gray hair, we see every sunset reflecting off of that same hair. I'm sure, Dr Laura, you will agree the brain controls what we see just as it controls our emotions. If our wives believe we love them, and love comes from our brain, what do you think our brain is showing us when we look at them through our loving eyes? Ladies, the point is this. All of my fellow loving husbands and I may never fully understand where your insecurities come from, but please know that to us, you have always been and will always be, the most beautiful women in the world. Dr. Laura, thank you for giving me a forum to express how deeply most men feel about the women they commit their lives to. Many of my friends are not able to articulate their feelings verbally. As you often say, men tend to show their love through actions. That does not mean we don't feel as deeply as our partners. Even if this doesn't get read on the air it's great to be able to share my perspective with you. Sincerely, Carl A Loving Husband and My Kid's Dad Posted by Staff at 1:00 PM |