Hi Dr. Laura,

A few months ago I got reconnected with an old friend of mine, whom which I had feelings for in the past. At the time she was living with her boyfriend so I didn't act on them. Eventually, I heard that she broke up with her boyfriend. I thought now is my time to get back into her life.

We seemed to hit it off, going for walks and out to eat. I didn't want to rush into anything. Because listening to you, it appears that relationships that aren't rushed seem to have a better success rate. Out of the clear blue, she texts me that she is in love with her landlord. He lives in a different state and she's flying out to see him. Did I mention that she only knew him for less than two weeks? 

I was devastated at first. Then I started thinking of what Dr. Laura would say. Inside my head, you said that what she is doing is out of lust and not love and that she would not be a good fit for me anyway. I guess it gave me comfort to know that what I wanted her to be isn't what she truly was. I really didn't lose anything except the fantasy of what I wanted her to be.

Thank you for keeping me on the straight and narrow. I always ask myself when it comes to how to treat a woman, would Dr. Laura be proud of me?