November 14, 2016
If I Don't Take Care of Him, Someone Else Will

Dr. Laura:

My husband and I have been married for nine years and have two children, ages 5 and 8.  I am a stay-at-home mom, and my smart, handsome, hard-working husband travels a lot for work.  

Life is stressful as a stay-at-home mom of busy boys, so I would often be grumpy and tired, and take my dear husband for granted when he was home by not treating him as his girlfriend.  Because of this, we rarely had sex; he never seemed to want to.  

Recently, I began to realize that if I didn't take care of him, someone else would.  So I began acting as I did when we first dated.  Now I feel butterflies when he is near and when I think of him.  We made love four times this week too.  

He said a very insightful thing to me last night - that when he didn't feel loved by me, he didn't feel like SHOWING me love.  That's a very simple statement, but one that I think would help a lot of marriages.  I listen to you daily and you are the reason that I finally figured it out.  Thank you!

Chloe


Posted by Staff at 10:59 AM