Dear Dr. Laura, 

The hardest thing I have ever done was give birth to my stillborn daughter. Two days after we found out our daughter had died I was admitted to the labor and delivery unit of our local hospital to be induced. I always describe it in two ways. First, the day we found out she had died, was like being struck by lightning on a sunny day. Second, it was the saddest day filled with much joy. Sad because I was going to deliver and say good-bye to my daughter, Ashley, in one day. But it was filled with joy because I was able to hold my daughter. I remember her with such love and in a way that is nothing short of a miracle to me - her fingers, toes, ears, mouth and little nose. What a blessing it was to hold her. 

A caller on your show recently had lost her daughter 15 years ago and was questioning her grief... I agree with your words that it is normal and it is ok. There are a few times a year where I too just weep. I go and give my husband a big hug and we talk about what could have been. You also said to do something good for others. I took my grief and I sew bereavement items for hospitals and families who contact me. I've sent them to all over the country and twice to London, England. Angel gowns for these precious babies. All we had was a doll dress to dress Ashley in.  It is my goal that no one has to ever buy a doll dress and donate all that I make. 

Thank you for your words. 

Blessings to you, 

Dawn
ashleys-angels.org