March 7, 2011
The Grief Road is Very Wavy
Just listened to Drew's call of the day from Monday, Feb. 28 regarding losing his wife. I lost my 14 year old son two years ago and your advice was right on. The grief road is very wavy. Sometimes tsunami waves of grief hit you at the oddest times. I cried yesterday in the grocery store when I looked at a package of little smokies! My son loved 'pigs in a blanket'.

The advice about no drugs (people PUSH them at you!) and not staying in bed all day was perfect too. I've seen people in my grief group who have been on Prozac for 15 years and can't move on. You HAVE TO FEEL THE PAIN of grief, you can't mask it or try to crawl under it. It's not an illness you can treat or a symptom you can cure it's a normal manifestation of the loss of a part of you and it must be endured until you can smile at the memories again.

Thanks for being there for us Dr. Laura. I've listened to you for 16 years, ever since I was a stay at home mom with my sweet baby James. You have helped me be a better mom and a better wife. God Bless you!

S.

Posted by Staff at 8:39 PM