Dear Dr. Laura, 

I was listening when you received a call from a young woman asking if, when you have a ring and a date, it was okay to have sex. 

When I was 26, I met a man and was very attracted to him. It was important for me not to jump in too fast. Also, I knew young women respond differently to sex than young men do. However, I cared very much for this man and I let my guard down. We had incredible sex which I was sure was lovemaking and it made me very vulnerable. I fell very much in love with him. Not too long after that great encounter, he moved away. It was not supposed to be permanent, he said he would be back. 

I carried this burning torch in my heart, and over the next 25 YEARS we were on and off. I tried to find another, but none measured up to what I had with him. I was never able to have a real relationship because I hoped he might return with his white horse!! I tell you this in hopes that a young woman might hear it and understand there is so much to lose. You can lose your heart and sometimes, it never comes back. Your heart and body are a treasure and they can only be given so many times. 

Lucky for me, I have found you, Dr. Laura. You have helped me realize that this was a fantasy and I am working to put this behind me. Unfortunately, I have missed so much and my chances of a quality relationship are now very limited. Thank you for all you do. You have made me a better and stronger person. 

Janie