December 13, 2011Focusing on my Boy
Dear Dr. Laura,
I remember having to do a report in school about what we wanted to be when we grew up. I always knew I wanted to be a wife and mom. But I never thought it was the ‘right’ answer. So I would make up something. I would say I wanted to be a lawyer or a librarian. I really just wanted to be a wife and mom. I wanted to cook and clean and do laundry. You helped me realize wanting to be a wife and mom was okay. In fact it was great.
Unfortunately I made some mistakes in life. I am a mom to a great 11 year old boy. But I have not been a wife. When my son was younger, about 3 years old, I was focused on dating and trying to meet a guy. I still wanted to be a wife, but I was forgetting I was a mom. You taught me to make my son my number one priority now. I stopped dating and started focusing on my son. We do homework together every night. We have dinner together every evening. We go to church together on Sundays. I go to every one of his baseball games and practices.
It has taken some time, but his father and I now get along great. I made a point to never speak badly about his father.
So many women tell me I need to take time for myself. I need to get a man. I need to go out on the weekends. I am so proud to tell them nothing makes me happier then when I am spending time with my son. And that is the truth!! I see these same women neglect their kids because they need ‘me time.’ They bring so many random men in and out of their children’s lives. I was on that same path at one point. But I thank God I started to listen to you. I am focused on my son and I know I am doing the right thing.
Thank you, Dr. Laura, for all you do for families.
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