As parents, sometimes we say things that hurt our kids a lot more than we realize. Here are 5 things you should never say to your kids:

1. Give cutesy names to genitals. Call things what they are. Explain what they do and when they should be seen and used. Put everything in the context of morals, values, and ethics.

2. “It’s rude to leave food on your plate. There are starving people in China.” Kids shouldn’t have to finish every morsel on their plates - that’s how eating disorders develop. Teach them about healthy food and exercise, and let them be adventurous with their tastes.

3. “Go hug your grandma/grandpa/aunt/uncle/etc.” Don’t force kids to make physical contact with someone unless they feel comfortable about it.

4. Stranger danger. Your child is far more likely to be molested by a family member than a stranger. Kids should know the basics like not getting into cars or leaving places with a stranger, but don’t scare your kids about meeting new people. Besides, you should be supervising!

5. “You’re so beautiful/handsome/smart.”  Your child had no say in that, and it doesn’t make them feel confident. If anything, it might make them focus on their looks rather than things of depth. Compliment your kids on the effort they put in and the compassion they show. That’s something they made a decision to do.