Marriage starts out as a lot of highs. Then suddenly, all you can see are the lows. You and your spouse start bitching at each other, feeling resentful, and losing what you had.

Here are three tips to not lose sight of the romance:

1. Work together as a team. Stupid stuff happens every day. Learn to not take it out on your spouse. Turn to each other, not on each other.

2. Make an effort to notice each other on a daily basis. Ask questions, plan the day together, kiss hello and goodbye, and connect in the middle of the day to pick each other up. Have you ever noticed that when you make someone else feel better, you also feel better? The nicer and sweeter you are to your spouse, the more cheerful you’ll feel.

3. Take time to relax with each other. At the end of the day when the kids are squared away, pour a glass of wine, put your feet up, and watch a stupid movie or take a bath together.