I am 45 years old, have been menopausal a few years, am still in good shape (5'5", 133 lbs) and am so fortunate to have a man who loves and appreciates me for exactly who and what I am. He tells me not to change a thing, not even to tweeze the errant hairs I get sometimes. He also tells me that every mile he runs is so he can stay in shape to please me. This unconditional love feeds my desire for him.
I also follow the Dr Laura "guideline" of saying yes rather than no, and I'm soooo glad I do - every single time! It's energizing, intimate and loving - who wouldn't want more of that in their life?
Remember ladies, that in marriage, you are his ONLY source of sexual intimacy, and a man NEEDS his woman. If you deprive him of that aspect of life, it is truly a waste of a very good thing! And in my mind, he'd have every right to leave you and go find his satisfaction elsewhere. A sexless life is no life at all.
We draw very few boundaries in the bedroom...it is a place where I am free to be his total woman, and he to be my total man. What a wonderful life!