I’m the caller who inspired your blog titled "When Suffering Becomes Your Identity." I might’ve been on the phone with you for less than five minutes, but that was the most instrumental five minutes of my life. I was speechless at the realization that I was living life as a victim. I couldn't find the words during our call, but I was disgusted with myself at the thought.
Later that evening, when my husband arrived home, I gave him a recap of our call and promised him, "That crap stops today!" The role of a victim is not one I am interested in playing. I have already used our conversation several times as a reminder that I am not a victim and need to act accordingly.
My spouse and I have even turned it into an inside joke. When we catch the other throwing a pity party, we jokingly ask, "Are you being a victim?" That question is enough to get a chuckle and switch our perspectives in the moment.
I've kept true to my promise since our call. I am determined to be a better wife, be the woman my husband deserves, and stop weighing him down with childish emotions. Thank you for your no-nonsense approach and for delivering the loving kick in the pants I needed.
Anny
I've Sworn Off the Role of Victim
If you've ever found yourself playing the role of victim, what prompted you to change that mindset? Share your thoughts with me by emailing drlaura@drlaura.com!
