Dr. Laura Blog

It takes almost nothing to throw the word “love” around. Building a lasting relationship requires a heck of a lot more. Here are some of the signs that the person you’re dating is really ready for a relationship:

1. They accept that having the benefit of someone in their life comes with responsibilities. If they are just enjoying the perks and attention but don’t come through when you need them, that’s not someone who is ready for a relationship.

2. They are emotionally self-sufficient. Nobody is totally emotionally self-sufficient - we all need the comfort and support of friends and family. However, if someone puts the entire weight of their happiness on you, that’s a sign of immaturity.

3. They know how to open up. They can share their innermost thoughts, fears, insecurities, and vulnerabilities with you. It may take time, but if they can’t do that, there’s something wrong.

4. They have a clear sense of purpose in their life. If somebody has no direction, they will likely be irresponsible towards commitment as well.

5. They have realistic expectations. None of us are perfect, and we all make mistakes. If they expect you to give them the moon, get out of Dodge.

6. They are willing to accommodate and compromise. They can make concessions without whining, bitching, or making you pay for it later.

7. They have let go of the past. If experiences from childhood or past relationships continue to linger, they are not ready to be in a relationship. You can have all the compassion and sympathy you want, but until they work on getting themselves healthy, you’re going to be sorry.