Dr. Laura:
I lost my husband earlier this year, after a marriage of 25 years, filled with family and our love for each other. He was a Navy Captain for 30 years and was an honorable, brave, intelligent and loving man. I was his caretaker for the last few years and did it all with love because he treated me like his queen.
After he died, I remembered your words about friends and family. I also remembered your advising that giving to others and having a purposeful life alleviates the grief. I've followed your advice and am grateful for your guidance.
The week before I took my husband's ashes to Arlington, I was going through some items in my jewelry box. In an inside pocket, I found an unopened letter with my name on the envelope in my husband's handwriting. It was a letter from him expressing his love for me. I cried and laughed all day. Laughter was one of the gifts he gave me.
I have a void in my heart that will never be filled, but I am at peace. I want the wives and girlfriends who listen to you to know that your words are very true - choose wisely, treat kindly, and hold his hand, because someday it might not be there to hold. Thank you for giving me strength and being a friend when I needed one.
Sending my love,
Elinor
