I've listened to you a long time and finally put your sage wisdom to work.
I've been working off the baby weight from our second child, working a few hours a week and doing my best to be a good wife (like meeting the hubby at the door with a drink when he comes home and putting love notes in his lunch). Thought our love life was good - probably not as often as he wanted it, but often enough for my busy schedule.
A few weeks ago, I discovered hard-core porn on the computer. The ME up 'til then would have cried, yelled at him then guilted him into submission until the next time he looked at it. So I emailed him I found what was on the computer and he better be ready to deal with me when he came home.
I immediately got online and bought some sexy lingerie and dug out some cute things I wore years ago (and they look better now than they did then!) My husband came home, sheepishly (no kiss, no drink, barely a hello) and he knew he was in trouble. After the kids were asleep, I went upstairs and told him to give me 5 minutes and then come up - when he did, his world was rocked by what he saw!!
After our "talk" he explained he didn't want to "bother me with his needs - what we were doing just wasn't enough for him and he knew I was busy. I apologized for being selfish and told him what hurt more than anything was that he lied to me and let me think everything was okay and let his needs be met online. I told him that wasn't going to happen on my watch again.
I've been playing the sexy wife for 2 weeks now - I feel better about myself, have been wearing more makeup, doing my hair and not fighting with everyone (he doesn't get ALL the fun!) I got my online order and every night he looks forward to the new outfit. We're almost having sex TOO much - he told me that HE needed a night off! And I just smiled, flashed him what's on under the cotton robe and that ended that talk.
THANK YOU for letting me realize how important keeping my MAN happy is and how that translates to making my home a happier place for me!
God bless you, the good works that you do and thank you for your son's service.
Casey
