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06/09/2016
Dr. Laura:
28 years ago, my husband and I went into our marriage with a goal of having peace in our home. We both came from backgrounds of bickering parents and a contentious home life. We decided that there must be a better way, so we worked hard to solve problems with kindness and respect.
We've often said to each other that if you can learn how to solve problems together, you pretty much have it made in a marriage, because marriage is a series of problem solving over and over again. We're proud of the peaceful atmosphere we've created.
But others don't believe us! They say I must not be telling the truth - that OF COURSE we must be fighting. I've heard that fighting is healthy and good for a marriage, and if you're not fighting you don't have enough passion. A family member even told me I was screwing up my kids because I wasn't showing them what a "real" relationship looked like.
Now that the nest is empty, my children have told me how grateful they are to have grown up in a home filled with peace, and how safe they felt here. My oldest son made an excellent choice in a wife. My daughter wants to share with the world the message that peace is possible. Maybe my experience can help someone else, because yes, peace in a home IS possible if you've chosen wisely.
Marilyn
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