I am a 34 year old married female, mother of 10 year old twin girls.
I was overweight all of my childhood and young adult life. I wanted to get married young and have kids young and I knew being heavy that wouldn't happen. So I lost 90 lbs and found myself a husband.
I got married at 23 and had my kids right away and within two years of marriage I packed on 125 lbs (partly due to thyroid problems) but mostly due to poor eating habits and lack of exercise. I was almost unrecognizable. Funny part is it didn't affect my relationship with my husband at all. He seemed to be just as affectionate at my smallest and at my biggest. I really learned that he loved ME. He literally stuck by me through thick and thin. I have since lost that 125 lbs and things haven't changed at all between us.
What did change was me. I was extremely embarrassed to be seen, I never wanted to leave the house, I wore big clothes to hide but I always looked clean and presentable (well groomed). I would never go to any functions of my husband's (work Christmas parties, get-togethers, etc) because I was so embarrassed for him to have a huge wife...but he always wanted me to go.
Whenever I get frustrated with my husband I think back about how he treated me great and stuck by me through my ups and downs with weight loss/weight gain. I'm very lucky to have him.
By the way, I read your book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands about 3 years ago and it changed my marriage completely. I always thought our bickering was his fault until I read your book and realized I was the problem not him. I changed completely and things have been fantastic for years. He often thanks me for reading that book. I realized it was the way I spoke to him that was creating conflict. I made most of my friends read your book too and they all same the same thing.
Thanks for your help!
Casey
