I just wanted to let you know how amazing my husband is. He is almost 62 years old and is still working in road construction. Yep, 100 degree weather in the direct sun for 12 hours a day, 5 days a week.
Since reading your book, The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands, years ago, I've made it a point to have a clean home and delicious dinner waiting for him when he gets home, hot and tired and dirty after a long day at work. I bake goodies that are healthy for his lunch and pack his lunch for him. We have sex as often as he wants - almost every other day for the first while, but it has calmed down to 2 to 3 times a week now! I keep his laundry clean, clothes-line dried, folded and put away. I'm careful of the family money and try to always have something saved for rainy winters. I work hard at not nagging him and would never shame him. Don't get me wrong, I am far from perfect. I am still trying to overcome my habit of talking on and on as I defend myself when he questions something I do that he doesn't agree with, and I occasionally snap at him when he asks me a question that I think he should know the answer to.
We've raised 7 kids together. Three of his, one of mine (he adopted her) and three we had jointly. It wasn't always smooth sailing and we both made major errors along the way. We had to learn to become mature and be nice to one another. All seven of our kids have grown up to become excellent law abiding citizens. However I still have regrets about things I did and said as we raised them, that's for sure.
But nevertheless many times after my husband has worked an especially long hot day he tells me the thing that kept him going that day was the love of his wife.
Thank you Dr. Laura for writing The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands. It has made all the difference in our marriage!
D.
