Dr. Laura Blog

The first and most important person in a man’s life is his mother. That’s why a man’s relationship with his mom can tell you a lot about him. Here’s what you need to watch out for:

• He avoids his mother. His mom creates anxiety for him. He can’t speak up for himself, and he’s afraid to tell her how he feels because he’s scared she’ll get upset or give him flack. Even if he seems like a nice guy, he will probably struggle with intimacy and be passive aggressive. No matter what you do, you’re not going to win because he associates commitment to a woman with anxiety.

• He can’t say or do anything without Mommy’s approval. He may be very sweet to you, but you will never be the queen bee.

• He openly hates his mother. There are many reasons why this can happen - she disappointed him or she wasn’t there. In any case, he’s only going to be OK with women when they behave exactly the way he wants. He won’t tolerate much deviation from his fantasy.

• He’s afraid of disappointing her. He’ll do anything to please you because he doesn’t like confrontation. Again, he’ll likely be passive aggressive.

• He’s completely attached to his mother. It’s like the umbilical cord was never cut. He tells her everything about every issue in his relationships, including your marriage if you decide to move forward with him.