I consider myself a reformed feminist. In my early twenties, I bought the hype that women who acted like men were sexy and empowered. I told my husband proudly that I didn't NEED him, and he assured me he got that message when he had a series of affairs. I got angrier and angrier, blaming him the whole time. We divorced when he left me for a younger model when my son was 13.
After he left, I met and married a great man. It was from my now husband that I learned, while we were dating, the truth about men and women. I learned that being a woman is an amazing gift, and that men are meant to be men. I learned that being bitchy isn't sexy, and that being soft and sweet gets me adoration and comfort I only dreamed about. I learned that being kind is more important than being right, and that letting a man open your car door is a way of making him feel like a real man.
My son is an adult now and is getting married soon to a sweet young lady, who I like a lot. They talk about having kids, and their plan is for her to be a stay-at-home mom. I've heard people question her about that choice, and I've flown to her defense. I bought her The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands as a shower gift. It took ME fifty years to get this right, but my son and his fiancée already get it. There's hope for the world!
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