My wife and I have struggled with a defiant daughter who took every bit of energy from us until she finally moved out, leaving us devastated. What we did not realize was the years of focusing on the one child had caused our two boys to get seriously overweight, because it was easier to give them what they wanted as we were always busy with our daughter.
This year, we started to get healthy again. My wife and I have lost over 80 pounds, but our boys still gained weight because we were not making them eat healthy too. I know they're concerned about their weight, so we decided to help them make the better decisions my wife and I had already made. We got rid of all the sodas and bad snacks in the house. We started to make dinner at home and sit and eat as a family every night. On weekends, we take trips to a state park and spend the day outdoors. Our boys are now going on challenging hikes and eating healthy. They've lost some weight, but they are noticeably slimmer. Our oldest boy told us this was easy now, and he was enjoying trying all the different new foods, even if he doesn't like all of them. Our youngest said he no longer has to lay on the bed to put his school pants on in the morning. I'm proud of them for the progress they have made. As a father and husband, I will not fail them ever again. This is not a diet - it's a lifestyle change.
Thank you for telling people we have the power to change our own lives. Your message gave me the knowledge I needed to change our kids' lives for the better.
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