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Chaos vs. Stability

Four years ago, I discovered that my wife had had an affair twelve years before that.  I was devastated.  I asked her about the affair, and although difficult for her, she told me the truth about it and answered questions I had.  I was angry and hurt.  

I knew I had two choices:  I could leave or I could stay.  I chose to stay because not only did I love my wife, but we also had a six-year-old daughter at the time.  I didn't want to put her through the mess of her parents getting divorced.  I also knew through counseling, we could possibly mend our marriage.  And we did.

We worked on this for over two years and I was able to trust her again.  We became better friends, better partners, and better lovers.  It turned out to be a decision that I do not regret.  Our marriage is stronger now than it ever was.  

All this happened before I even knew who you were.  I discovered you on SiriusXM only two months ago, and now I grin when I hear someone calling you about something similar to my situation, and you flat out tell them to stay if there are kids involved (assuming there's no abuse or addiction).  My daughter is now eleven years old, and a bright young lady with a solid future ahead of her.  I like to think it's because she lives in a stable family with TWO parents who love her and each other.





Tags: Attitude, Character-Courage-Conscience, Divorce, Men's Point of View, Personal Responsibility, Values
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