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Definite Rewards
05/02/2011
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Recently, due to surprising decision by the governing board, my husband found himself terminated from his job. He is intelligent and talented he will find another job. In the meantime, I have been working more hours where I can in hopes to help with our finances. I tend to come dragging home from work and see the things around the house I wish I could have gotten done had I been home during the day. My husband has said, "Just tell me what you want done and I can do it." This is not very successful, as he is more likely to forget than to do the chores. Next was, "Make me a to-do list and I can get to it when I'm home." Mostly the to-do list continually gets shifted to the next day every evening, with not much crossed off - and often with added items!


A few days ago I came home late in the afternoon. As I entered the house, my sympathetic husband said, "How would you like to take a nap?" We both know that is 'code' for 'let's go have sex in the afternoon since neither of us are at work!' Instantly I knew my answer: "I'd really like to 'take a nap', but I have a few things I would like to get done outside before it gets dark. Would you like to help me?" Like I mentioned, my husband is intelligent. I think the real answer was, "No, I don't want to help you work outside." But what came out of his mouth was, "Sure, I'll come out and work with you!"

 

I did a few things I really wanted done and he proceeded to accomplish much of what was on the to-do list. As we worked, I was patting myself on the back for realizing how to use the best tool I have for getting household chores done! I even mentioned (as our paths crossed), "Now I'm really looking forward to taking that nap in just a few more minutes!" My husband has full confidence in me - he knew he would be rewarded when we had worked together awhile!

 

C.

 

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