I teach sewing to children. Besides weekly classes, I offer "sewing camps" on workdays when there's no school. On these camp days, I often feel like a therapist helping kids living in "blended families." It appears to me these kids get sent to a camp to get them out of the way during school holidays -- a disproportionate number of my campers are in bad step family situations.
The agony that these kids live through breaks my heart. Some of them are terrified to make a mistake, as though only through perfection will they be accepted. Others tell me stories of abuse at the hands of older step-siblings--problems that never occur in front of the adults. I hear of lots of other issues as well. I don't start these conversations; they begin when one child happens to mention an issue, and then another tells his or her story. Kids who have to deal with uncaring step-parents, nasty step-siblings, natural parents who don't stand up to an unfair step-parent, step-grandparents who give their own grandchildren lavish gifts and ignore the step-sibling--these kids just don't have a chance.
Thank you, thank you for encouraging parents to put their romantic lives on hold until their kids are grown. Any child you save from these horrors is a child who has a chance to grow up strong and mentally healthy.
Hanna
