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Don't Overlook the Red Flags
07/13/2015



Hello Dr. Laura, 

I am active duty Navy, but returned from a 9 month deployment this past November. During that deployment, I was engaged to the wrong person. At the time I ignored all the red flags you said to watch out for. She did not believe in God; I do. She was fine with sticking future children in day care; I was not. I could keep going on and on, but there were too many to name. I made the mistake of marrying this person. 

After listening to your program I realized I had made a horrible mistake, so instead of dragging any future children through a guaranteed divorce, I chose to end the marriage. I thank you for allowing me to come to this conclusion. I was raised in a household with a mother AND father who loved my sister and me. I will not start a trend of raising kids in a divorced home or one where the parents do not love each other and do not date each other. 

She used to make fun of me for going home on the weekends to visit my parents as I am lucky enough to be stationed 4 hours from home. Instead of listening to her nag me about that, I listened to your podcast for those 4 hours and it truly makes me a better person. I cannot thank you enough for standing up for what is right when society is so wrong. You make me a stronger person. When I choose my next wife, I will not overlook the red flags you speak so much about and I will follow your wisdom from now on. 

Sincerely, 

Jamie

Tags: Choose Wisely-Treat Kindly, Dating, Divorce, Marriage, Men's Point of View, Parenting, Personal Responsibility, Values
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