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Dr. Laura In My Head

I am 23 years old and have been listening to you for about two years.  When I first found your program, I listened to laugh as you yelled at people who called in!  Slowly, I started "hearing" your voice in my head, telling me to act like a lady.  And I heard how a man needs to be treated.  I was in an abusive relationship at the time and saw myself as a victim.  Then I took your advice.  I looked hard in the mirror and realized I was acting like an unpaid whore, so I was being treated like on.  I was just following societal cues that made it okay to label myself a victim.

Today, I am happily involved with a wonderful man, and it turns out he was right in front of me all along, but I needed to act like a lady if he was going to be in my life.  We are talking about engagement, but we want to wait two years to make sure we are mature enough for this decision.  I'm currently reading The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands to get a head start!  Last week, he surprised me with red velvet cupcakes (my favorite) and last night he made a lobster dinner! 

I wanted to write to you because I wish more people my age would take your advice.  I was spending my life as a girl who thought she was entitled to everything no matter what I did, because I knew I was attractive to men.  Thank you for helping me change my perspective and consequently, changing my life.  I know my future will be one filled with love, partnership and teamwork.


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Tags: Choose Wisely-Treat Kindly, Marriage, Regarding Dr. Laura, Relationships, Values
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