Your book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
" helped me stay married and we're celebrating our 46th anniversary this year. At first, I started letting my husband be the "man
." I did little things, like ask him to open jars, get things from high shelves and generally help me with other things I could do myself. The other thing I did was greet him when he came home. I'd get up from whatever I was doing and meet him at the door with a big intimate kiss that let him know I was his woman and I was glad he was home.
Just doing these few things dramatically changed our relationship. I felt like he put me on a pedestal and treated me like his queen, which is what I always wanted, but (due to the feminist movement) thought that I had to fight with him in order to get on that pedestal.
Finally, I stopped withholding sex as a form of punishment. I remember your saying that sex was a stress reliever for women too, so I changed my thinking about it. We have a great sex life, but I'm still ashamed about holding out on the one thing that would have healed our bond sooner.
We are one of the fortunate couples who beat the odds. We chose each other wisely, and now we always treat each other kindly.
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