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Getting On With Life

Hi Dr. Laura,

I was listening to a past call with a mother whose 26-year-old son died from complications of chemotherapy. Her pain was palpable, and also her desperate need to laugh. I lost my son at 20-years-old, back in 2000 and I understand her completely. I also understand how hard the call was for you too. 

The thing that helped, along with wonderful friends and church, was a group called The Compassionate Friends. Specifically, for bereaved parents. Also, the grieving time for losing a child is roughly 5 years. I say you never get over the pain, you just get used to it.

After the 1st year, the denial is just starting to wear off. The 2nd year is a shock because you want to get on with things and you're not quite ready. Half way through' the 3rd year the pain really hits and there's a lot of sobbing. Around the 4 1/2 years you can start to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

You said it well Dr. Laura, in my early days of grief, "You will never get over it, but you will get on with your life."  

Blessings and prayers for all you do, 


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Tags: Attitude, Behavior, Parenting, Relationships, Relatives, Response to a Call, Values
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