When my life hit crisis mode about a year ago, I knew I needed help from the pros! I spoke with you about regarding the power struggle between my husband's family and mine.
I had just been diagnosed with bi-polar and was seriously depressed in my marriage, which I thought was normal and just fine. I was married to someone who was very controlling, verbally abusive, and with declining mental capacity to handle things, we thought a quick visit to a psychiatrist, and medication would solve the issue. Until my family stepped in and very lovingly told me my husband and I should consider separating. They were skeptical of the recent diagnosis I was given.
After having what seemed to be WWIII between his family and mine, things spiraled out of control. His family did not think it was a good idea to separate; my family was pleading for them to realize that his presence was giving me serious anxiety and depression. So everyone was walking on egg shells, including my son and daughter. I, then you. You told me I was the only one who knew what was going on behind closed doors. You also gave me the most valuable advice I could have ever received. After you had me shout three times on the air "I am stronger than I think I am", I decided enough was enough. Shortly after, I was able to get a protection order in place to keep me and my two kiddos safe in my home.
Oddly, the psychiatrist admitted he had misdiagnosed me. And then in the next breath, recommended I leave my husband. Turns out I was married to a narcissist. A word I hadn't even heard of until about 9 months ago! Needless to say, I chose a different, more effective therapist after that visit. Since then, I have become happily divorced, and after some much needed therapy, I am NOT crazy, NOT bi-polar and healthy, raising my two kiddos as a divorced mother. I am for the first time, LOVING Motherhood! I went from having ample amounts of money, running my own business, and stressing about being the person my husband thought I should be, to being a broke, single, and a very busy lady. I am loving life, focusing on my sweet babies, and learning the signs to ensure I don't make the same mistake twice.
I know you get hundreds of these emails each day, but there's only one of me, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking a few moments to help me press the reset button on my life. I can't wait to one day take what I've learned, and use it in a more healthy and rich relationship that will bless my children and me. Thank you again! You rule.
Denielle
