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Ignored the Red Flags
04/16/2013
Dear Dr. Laura,

Our 27-year-old son was married just over 6 months ago after only knowing his girlfriend for just over a year (part of that separated by her deployment). So you could say they really didn't know each other that well.

My husband and I told him not to marry her - because BEFORE the wedding he was voicing his concerns about her lack of housecleaning, cooking, laundry (yes, they were shacking up). And, believe it or not, her lack of wanting to have sex (and she's only 22). I did give her The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, but she has yet to open it up.

Anyway, they went through with it and now you should see his postings on Facebook; things about get over it, Princess, etc.  And even though he is using a piece of humor going around the Internet, he has put his own twist on it with his most recent posting.    It almost mimics your book.


HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

1. Feed him
2. Sleep with him
3. Leave him with peace
4. Don't check his phone (messages)
5. Don't bother him with his movements
So what's so hard about that?

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

It's really not too difficult but.... To make a woman happy, a man only needs to be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a plumber
10. a mechanic
11. a carpenter
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
44. give her compliments regularly
45. Go shopping with her
46. be honest
47. be very rich
48. not stress her out
49. not look at other girls


AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
50. give her lots of attention
51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes.

BUT MOST OF ALL IT IS VERY IMPORTANT
53. never forget
*birthdays
*anniversaries
*Valentine's Day
*arrangements she makes.


Our heart breaks for our son. He says "Mom, they don't make women like you anymore." My husband and I just celebrated our 30th anniversary - thanks to the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. I know my son yearns for what we have, but he will never find it with her. I also know there is nothing I can do to fix this.

I just want to say thank you for what you do. Some out there are listening.

God Bless,

Theresa
Tags: choose wisely treat kindly, Choose Wisely-Treat Kindly, Dating, Marriage, Military, Morals/Ethics/Values, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
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