Dear Dr.Laura,
I called you yesterday about my mom. I told you she had a bad childhood with, an alcoholic dad, an abusive mom, and practically raised her siblings. She married a good man, but did not treat him kindly. She complained a lot about how he didn't make enough money, and she hates her job which in turn is all his fault... bla bla bla. Now that I am an adult, she complains to me. This Sunday I told her to stop complaining to me about him. Now she is punishing me by not talking to him for 3 days. You told me "GOOD," and to not feel bad for my dad by reminding me that "he is a grown man". "STOP TRYING TO FIX THEIR MARRIAGE".
Well last night I gave that some thought. I realized you were right. I was trying to fix an unhealthy marriage that didn't want to fixed. Just like how she spent way to much time always trying to fix her unhealthy family that didn't want to be fixed. That time could have been better spent trying to be a good mother and wife. So I will spend my time trying to be the kind of mother she was not and the kind of wife she was not. I will continue to stand my ground. I will have a have a healthy relationship with her or not one at all. I am a grown woman and if I need love I will get it from my husband. If I need a hug I will get it from my husband. Her life would have been so much better if she would have looked to her husband for love rather than her abusive mom and dad who never gave it to her. Mother Laura I will listen to you and be a the strong woman my husband and children deserve. Thank you Dr. Laura!
Love,
Tess
