My husband and I taught our children that having sex and making babies outside marriage and family was not only morally wrong, but violated the rights of the potential child. Nonetheless, one of our children had a baby after shacking up with a guy and the result is our now 7-year-old grandson. After watching the abuse and neglect, and trying every way to legally take him away for four years, we were discouraged and sickened. Authorities and lawyers told us the abuse was not bad enough. We picked him up for a visit one day to find his sweet face bruised, swollen with a purple handprint. Long story short, we finally have custody of him for good and forever.
Shortly after we removed him from the "bad place" (as he calls it), he told us about the sexual abuse and beatings he endured. We have no relationship with our daughter any more, and that heartbreak lives in a hidden corner of my heart. I occupy the rest of the space with the joy of our clever, happy boy and our new family.
My retired husband is a stay-at-home dad and after a few months of public school, we are now homeschooling our grandson and loving every minute. I can't wait to get home each day to see "my boys". If I had anything to do over, I would have been even more vehement when talking to our daughters by using the words "unpaid whore". Our other daughter is a fine wife, stay-at-home mother, and proud to be her husband's girlfriend. Many days I listen to you talk to young women and pray they take your advice before even one more child pays the heavy price that irresponsible behavior brings.