My husband and I have been married for 11 years, and we have 2 boys. When they were young, our sex life was practically non-existent, which was a major change from before we had children. My husband didn't complain, but I know he wasn't very happy.... And I was just too tired.
"The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
" really opened my eyes and made me re-adjust my thinking. First, I took advantage of the days when we were alone at home while the boys were at school, finding mid-day romps fun and energizing. We also realized that waiting until we went to bed at 11 pm or later to fool around was a HUGE mistake - we were often too tired or not in the mood, and if we were, let's just say the quality was lacking on my end, although no fault of my husband.
Our solution? We head back to our room after we know the boys are asleep. We devote our full attention and energy to pleasing each other and enjoying the intimacy. Over the last couple of years of doing this, our bodies are very much in tune, and our sex life and relationship have never been better. By making our relationship the most important thing, I know we can weather any storm. I wish all marriages could experience something similar.