Dear Dr. Laura:
I am a stay-at-home Mom. Many times, I've received confirmation that being my husband's girlfriend and staying at home with our son is the right answer, but one recent experience in particular really drove it home.
I was with our son in the nursery at church, and there were three other children there. One of the children has a stay-at-home Mom whose marriage is intact. The other two go to day care. One Mom shacks up with her boyfriend and the other Mom has a very turbulent relationship with her husband. My son and the other child whose Mom stays at home were calm and playing independently in different areas of the room. The two day care children were fighting over toys, pushing and shoving and yelling. The aggression was surprising and saddening. They never settled down.
While I understand that a certain amount of noise and excitement is normal for busy toddlers and preschoolers, the difference in home life was very apparent in this group of children, and I believe wholeheartedly that it indicates the importance of Mommy and Daddy being married, Mommy staying home to raise babies, and both parents working together to keep home a safe and peaceful place.